003 – Free Will and Increasing Choice

This episode explores:

  • the definition of free will
  • will demonstrate how one may have drastically less free will than they expected due to what research is showing us in regards to physical impediments
  • and show how emotional fitness can greatly increase your choices/free will in life.

These concepts have supported my movement from retributive to restorative beliefs with myself and others. As other people make this shift, I believe the amount of peace and wellbeing in one’s life grows exponentially.



  • Free Will – the ability to choose between different possible courses of action unimpeded
  • I used to believe strongly in Free Will a decade ago, thinking most people including myself had little restrictions on their ability to choose whatever path or response to a event that they wanted, this has drastically shifted with my exploration of psychological theory and research. www.SamHarris.org.
  • Some possible impediments in choosing one’s actions can include: genetics, epigenetics, environment, beliefs from others close to you, cultural aggressions, trauma, and health, including gut health and inflammation
  • The following will explore the above factors, their impact on free will, and how to work on one’s emotional fitness to increase one’s choice

Genetics Impact on Free Will

  • Our genes are doing their best to protect us, though we have a rapidly evolving world, what served to protect us 800,000 years ago verses 1,000 years ago didn’t likely change that much
  • Sensitivity/Anger Gene
  • Openness/Anxiety Gene
    • Study on how Genes and Early Environment affect Openness verses Anxiety: Grazioplene, R. G., DeYoung, C. G., Rogosch, F. A., & Cicchetti, D. (2013). A novel differential susceptibility gene: CHRNA4 and moderation of the effect of maltreatment on child personality. Journal of Child Psychology and Psychiatry, and Allied Disciplines, 54(8), 872–880. http://doi.org/10.1111/jcpp.12031



  • Helpful Image: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:Epigenetic_mechanisms.jpg
  • Possibly trauma from 3 generations can affect epigenetics
  • The tightening of the genes can prohib beneficial/protective genes from being able to express themselves
  • Physical and Emotional Trauma impact epigenetics, quickening response times, this was a benefit in times of danger and war, now when in less danger, how can I let my system know that it’s safe to unwind
  • Warring tribe verses Peace Tribe
  • Natural Blueprint in your system to return to the best place for you, when removal of impediments.



  • Beliefs from Family of Origin
  • Experiences During Childhood
  • Beliefs/Experiences from Religion, Culture, Ethnicity, Neighborhoods, or Other Organizations
  • Amount of Affection, Stability, and Trust in Family
  • Level of Safety in the Environment for the Individual, Impacts of Aggressions and Microaggressions



  • Small and large events
  • Physical
  • Emotional
  • Psychological
      • Michael P. Hengartner, Lisa J. Cohen, Stephanie Rodgers, Mario Müller, Wulf Rössler, and Vladeta Ajdacic-Gross (2015). Association Between Childhood Maltreatment and Normal Adult Personality Traits: Exploration of an Understudied Field. Journal of Personality Disorders: Vol. 29, No. 1, pp. 1-14. https://doi.org/10.1521/pedi_2014_28_143


Neural Pathways

  • Neuroplasticity
    • Mindfulness practices have the potential to improve attention, cognitive functioning, self-control in emotion, immune function, and well-being, while decreasing stress response. Mindfulness practices may induce neuroplasticity.
      • Hölzel, B.K., Carmody, J., Vangel, M., Congleton, C., Yerramsetti, S.M., Gard, T., and Lazar, S.W. (2011).
        Mindfulness practice leads to increases in regional brain gray matter density. Psychiatry Research: Neuroimaging
        191, 36–43.


Gut Health

  • “Gut microbes can produce hormones and neurotransmitters that are identical to those produced by humans.”
  • “Gut bacteria directly stimulate afferent neurons of the enteric nervous system to send signals to the brain via the vagus nerve.”
  • “Through these varied mechanisms, gut microbes shape the architecture of sleep and stress reactivity of the hypothalamic-pituitary-adrenal axis.”
  • “They influence memory, mood, and cognition and are clinically and therapeutically relevant to a range of disorders, including alcoholism, chronic fatigue syndrome, fibromyalgia, and restless legs syndrome.”
  • Evrensel, A., & Ceylan, M. E. (2015). The Gut-Brain Axis: The Missing Link in Depression. Clinical Psychopharmacology and Neuroscience, 13(3), 239–244. http://doi.org/10.9758/cpn.2015.13.3.239



  • Imaging the Role of Inflammation in Mood and Anxiety-related Disorders. Jennifer C. Felger*. Current Neuropharmacology (2018) 16: 533. https://doi.org/10.2174/1570159X15666171123201142



  • Hunger/Satiety Spectrum
  • Pain/Comfort
  • Tired/Rested
  • Hormone Balance


Impacts on Free Will When Viewing This on Others

  • I believe that each person is doing the best that they can in each and every moment, based on what’s impeded their free will, that their choice has narrowed down and their best action they had access to was what they did
  • Realization can allow us to see that unless a person takes action to change, they are likely to do the same thing again
  • It still means we are allowed to protect ourselves and set boundaries and consequences, we don’t say “oh, they are doing their best, it’s okay” if it’s not okay with you
  • Deep knowing that I would have done the same as they did if I had their genetics and history.
    • Personally this releases me of judgment of the other person, and allows me to evaluate if I want to offer restorative services and if so, what would that look like.
  • As a society, how can we support restorative services?


Impacts on Free Will When Viewing This on Ourselves

  • Release expectation of change until we’ve started working on the core issue
  • Knowing that you have done the best you could in the past, and to use this as data to decide how you want to work on yourself moving forward
  • It’s data for our starting points.
    • Personal example fear of heights


Weekly Invitation

  • Importance of questioning what we used to believe and is it still true
    • Petter Attia (https://peterattiamd.com/podcast/) frequently asks his guests what did you strongly believe in 5 years ago that you no longer believe, science is ever growing and changing
    • Dinner party question
  • What belief did you believe in the past that you no longer hold today? Think or journal about this, then share it with a friend, and ask them the same.



  • In the comments section, please share what was the most important idea you took away from this podcast?

002 Emotional Fitness Coach aka Therapist: Why would I need a Therapist & How to Choose a Therapist

Show Notes:

  • Physical fitness has many different avenues, such as body weight training, yoga, mountain biking; some avenues for Emotional Fitness include: Peer Group, Friend Group, Professional Lead Group, Individual practice with activities like meditation and other mindfulness exercises, Professional support, such as individual or Couples Therapy
  • Today focus on individual therapy
  • When a friend says they just signed up for a physical trainer verses friend signed up for a therapist – notice how does the response differ?
  • Is there a belief that someone’s broken if they go to a therapist


  • What can be the benefits of Therapy:

    • Increased choice, your ability to choose where you place your thoughts, increased cognitive flexibility
    • Increased productivity
    • Increased creativity
    • Increased memory & focus
    • Increased compassion
  • Positive Psychology founder Martin Selligman, former American Psychological Association President, newest book: The Hope Circuit
  • Research on effects of therapy and emotional exercises
  • Positive Psychology in Clinical Practice; Annual Review of Clinical Psychology; https://doi.org/10.1146/annurev.clinpsy.1.102803.144154
  • Wolters Kluwer Health: Lippincott Williams & Wilkins (2012, July 11). Evidence supports health benefits of ‘mindfulness-based practices’. ScienceDaily. Retrieved March 24, 2013, from <http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2012/07/120711104811.htm>
  • https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/topics/psychotherapies/index.shtml
  • Altmann U, Zimmermann A, Kirchmann HA, et al. Outpatient Psychotherapy Reduces Health-Care Costs: A Study of 22,294 Insurants over 5 Years. Frontiers in Psychiatry. 2016;7:98. doi:10.3389/fpsyt.2016.00098.
  • Bolier, L., Haverman, M., Westerhof, G. J., Riper, H., Smit, F., & Bohlmeijer, E. (2013). Positive psychology interventions: a meta-analysis of randomized controlled studies. BMC Public Health, 13, 119. http://doi.org/10.1186/1471-2458-13-119
  • Why it’s important to be familiar with the process of finding a counselor? Life gets turned upside down as it can, it’s helpful to know you have professional support lined up.


  • Invitation of the week – Start the process of getting a therapist

    • Not everyone will have similar access, eg traveling for work, living in remote locations, finances; some options include: therapists in training, health insurance hotlines, resource hotlines, online program
    • Interview therapists – multiple, ask them questions, see who you feel relaxed and trusting around
    • https://www.everydayhealth.com/columns/therese-borchard-sanity-break/questions-everyone-should-ask-their-therapist/
    • After choose a therapist, evaluate for treatment
    • When something happens, yet also building up the strength prior to things happening, if the therapist is full active clients, they will provide you with three referrals
    • If things get uncomfortable, this can be meaningful data
    • Are you still able to explore with proper form, one foot in present and one foot in past
    • Go for annual Checkup up – Gottman’s recommendation for annual evaluation
    • When you end treatment, tell them what you found most valuable in therapy and ask for what that modality was
    • Continue with the 5 sense mindfulness
    • Resources for finding a therapist:

    • Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT): http://behavioraltech.org/resources/whatisdbt.cfm
      * DBT is a modality that teaches skills for being in effective relationship, gaining emotional awareness, and tolerating distress, in the present moment. DBT is offered in group settings, as well as with support from individual therapists.
      * DBT Youtube Channel with founder Marsha Linehan: https://www.youtube.com/user/BehavioralTech
    • EMDR
      * EMDR is a treatment for processing traumatic events. It can be offered by a separate clinician from the rest of your treatment.
      * EMDR “Consultants” have a higher level of training, that includes parts work, though what matters most is your relationship with the therapist and how much you trust them, regardless of their level of certification.
      * To find practitioners: http://www.emdria.org/?120
      * Francine Shapiro (creator of EMDR) on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lsQbzfW9txc
    • Somatic Experiencing:
      * SE is body-based approach to healing trauma and other stress disorders
      * To find practitioners: http://sepractitioner.membergrove.com
      * Free videos about SE: https://somaticexperiencing.com/category/about-peter/videos-of-petre/
      * SE Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/user/somatics1
    • Mindfulness Based Relapse Prevention
      * Link to finding regional groups: http://www.mindfulrp.com/For-Clients.html
    • American Society of Experiential Therapist (ASET):
      * To find practitioners: www.asetonline.com/therapists.html
      * American Dance Therapy Association (ADTA): www.adta.org
    • Dance movement therapy group can be the intersection between movement, mind and body, health and well-being.
      * To find a certified therapist or group leader, go to: www.adta.org/find-a-dancemovement-therapist/
    • Psychology Today: www.psychologytoday.com
      * Psychology Today is a great resource to search for therapists, group therapy, and outpatient and inpatient services.
      * There’s search features that allow you to sort by different specialties, modalities, insurance, and other options.

001 Emotional Fitness: What is emotional fitness and how it impacts your life

Welcome to Life Gym: Exercises for Emotional Fitness.
If you’re asking what is emotional fitness, I invite you to think of some of the benefits of exercising your body… I’m sure you can think of many, such as an increase in strength, mobility, and stamina. When we are physically fit, it can be more enjoyable to be in our bodies. Yet, how often do we exercise our minds? This podcast is an exploration of the exercises to make your mind a deeply enjoyable place to be. I’m Laura Wade, with a background in physiological counseling and a passion for fitness and I’m excited to introduce you to the world of Emotional Fitness
This first week is an introduction to emotional fitness, and explores breaking down the components of emotional fitness can lead us to being more realistic and gentle with ourselves, ultimately leading to greater growth and getting to our emotional goals with more ease.
Each week a new topic will be explored and provide an exercise for you to try in your life. Emotional and physical fitness are journeys, not one stop solutions. If you’re looking to make long term and meaningful changes in your emotional and mental well-being, listen in to this podcast, then put the exercises into practice. 
If you have found this podcast helpful, please subscribe and forward it on to one friend who can join you on the emotional fitness journey, fitness routines can be greatly enhanced with a workout buddy.
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